Something you might need to hear before heading into Christmas.
Christmas is just around the corner and let’s be honest – for many of us, this is a time that can come with challenges, intensity and heightened emotions.
I want to offer a reminder as you head into upcoming events with family, in-laws, extended friendship groups and your loved ones partners – to go gently with each other. To breathe deeply through your triggers, and accept the inevitable – we’re going to have our differences.
As humans, we come together with our various stories, conditioning, personality traits and life goals. There will be some differences and points of contention that will always be there and, as a result, some issues that can never be fully resolved.
We’re different humans, so we’re going to have differences. We’re not all meant to be the same. We’re not always ready to change. And there are plenty of things we shouldn’t have to change. We may have totally different ways of being and doing to our loved ones and that’s okay. The sooner we understand and accept this, the better.
There can be an expectation, particularly in intimate relationships or in family dynamics, that the other person should be like us; that sameness is equal to goodness.
The way to build a great relationship isn’t to change your loved ones but to find the best systems to help you live with the differences. Rather than putting all our energy into trying to make someone like us or make ourselves like someone else, it’s important that we surrender to, and even celebrate, our diversity.
It’s important to point out a subtlety here. There’s a distinction between appeasing someone and accepting your differences. When you’re appeasing someone, you’re nervous or scared to be real around them or voice your true concerns. When you’ve accepted your differences in a relationship, you’re gracefully acknowledging that multiple realities can exist .You haven’t changed or suppressed who you are, you’re simply choosing not to aggravate the differences.
If you want some extra tips on connecting in an authentic and harmonious way, it’s not too late to order my book; How To Have Meaningful Relationships. You’ll unearth the foundations for building stronger connections, learn how to lay down boundaries, unleash the power of staying present for your people and discover how to diffuse those dreaded conflict bombs.
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Upcoming Workshops & Events
Expansion Yoga and Meditation Weekend
Reset your mind and rejuvenate your body. Delve into a weekend of meditation, mindfulness, yoga practices and transformative teachings. You’ll leave feeling renewed, grounded and expanded. For Beginners to Advanced.
Date: May 27th – 29th, 2022, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teachers: Emma Power & Nilanthi Chandra
Friday – 6:30pm – 8:30pm
Saturday – 8:30am – 5:00pm
Sunday – 8:30am – 5:00pm
(approx finish time)
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How to Have Meaningful Relationships is an essential guide for anyone who wants to build healthy, happy and sustainable relationships with the people in their lives. Relationships skills are not innate, they are skills to be learned. This pocket guide provides useful tools, ideas, and checklists to help you become the very best team player you can be.
When Love Goes South is a book that will teach you how to approach relational conflict and challenges with game-changing results. This pocket-sized guide is the relationship counseling session that many people need, but never quite get to. It is written with the intention to create a new paradigm of relating, offering the reward of getting safely and successfully to the other side of pain and challenge.